They call and tell you they're struggling. Now what?
Do you step in? Ask more questions? Contact someone? Give advice? Or stay quiet and let them work through it?
Freshman year can leave even experienced parents second-guessing themselves. The job you've had for the last 18 years is changing—and nobody exactly hands you the new job description.
The Freshman Year Survival Guide was created to help you understand what's happening on both sides of the relationship and respond in ways that support your student's growth while keeping your connection strong.
The goal isn't to stop parenting. It's to learn how to parent differently.
They're miserable and calling me every night. Is this normal—or should I be concerned?
They're struggling academically. When do I let them handle it themselves?
They barely tell me anything anymore. Should I give them space or keep reaching out?
I know I'm supposed to let go—but what does that actually look like when they're struggling?
Know when to step in—and when to pause.
Learn a practical framework for distinguishing between the uncomfortable experiences that are part of growth and situations where your student may genuinely need more support.
Communicate in ways that strengthen connection. Know what helps-and what can unintentionally make things harder-when your student is struggling.
Understand what college students are actually navigating—and what’s developmentally normal during freshman year.
Build a relationship that lasts beyond college.
I'm Jennifer Dunbar, LICSW, a psychotherapist with more than 15 years of clinical experience, including the last five years working directly with young adults in college counseling. I've had a front-row seat to what college students struggle with—and what they often wish their parents understood.
Freshman year can shape patterns in your relationship that last well beyond college. I created the Freshman Year Survival Guide to give you an inside look at this transition from your student's perspective—and practical guidance for knowing when to step in, when to step back, and how to stay connected as your role begins to change.
15 video lessons (about 10-20 minutes each)
Interactive Companion Workbook with Reflection Exercises
Ready-to-Use Conversation & Communication Guides
When to Step In Decision Framework for Common Freshman Year Challenges
Printable Cheat Sheets & Quick Reference Guides
Lifetime Access So You Can Return Whenever You Need It
You don’t have to have all the answers. You just need a clearer way to know when to step in, when to step back, and how to stay connected.
The Freshman Year Survival Guide gives you practical guidance for navigating this new stage of parenting with more confidence—and less second-guessing.